Shattered but not broken
I know that the title of this post is probably baffling….but soon it will be clear. After the day and night I have just experienced I feel as if I could curl up in a ball and cry. I have always known that I am deeply and passionately in love with my husband. I mean those that know us know that ours is truly a love story that fairy tales are made of. I believe with all my heart the longer I know Matthew the more deeply in love with him I become. He is more than my husband he is my very best friend, my confidant, my mirror (he reflects to me who I really am…but much more gently than any normal mirror could), the priest, prophet and provider of our home, the father of my children and mylover. So as you can well imagine the moment I saw his body/face all ash grey yesterday morning and felt a weak and thready pulse I was more than a bit concerned! Long story short, after being discharged from hospital yesterday morning (without being properly checked over) I brought him home to rest. Matthew slept the whole of the day. He came downstairs to have a bit of time out of the bed, we sat and watched a show, went back to bed and around 10:20 PM he began to say that he was feeling a bit funny again. I called my father in law to come round to the house and sit since Judah was asleep. Once he got here we set off to hospital. Arrived at hospital at 11:53pm…..Matthew had pre assessment done…an ECG to monitor his heart then a history was taken, we were asked to wait in the waiting room and were called back when he was to have his blood drawn. I have to say that there are not many things in this life that my husband dreads..that I am aware of but needles is most definitely one of them! This experience DID NOT in any way improve his opinion of being stuck or having blood drawn. The young nurse did her best to find a vein but in the end was only able to get one and a half tubes before changing location from inner elbow area to top of the hand..the blood just stopped flowing….and the butterfly that was put in his hand drew NO blood at all. So as test for cardiac enzymes and anemia were run. We went back into the waiting room until called back to see the Dr. Doctor had a look over him, spoke with us and asked a load of questions to get a better understanding of what was going and even a family history. The tests came back normal and Matthew was discharged. The Dr at A&E (Ambulance and Emergency) told us he was going to order an echo-cardiogram and a 24 hour monitoring for Matthew…via the GP. We returned home at 3:30AM and I went to bed at 4AM…I kept waking myself….nervous that he wasn’t okay. Judah woke at 7AM as I had anticipated. He would have stayed in his bedroom much longer as he got a new game last night from Toys R Us….Star Wars The Clone Wars for his Leapfrog Explorer but the batteries went out….. ahhhhhhhh this is not the morning for the batteries to die and me not have extra. Needless to say we are downstairs watching a movie…well I am sitting he is bouncing of the walls. Back to the story… so I suppose now with some sort of understanding of how the events all unfolded one can see that I have a reason to be completely shattered! I felt myself begin to fall apart yesterday morning at the very thought that I could lose Matthew. For a moment I allowed fear to grip me…I suppose that is normal in most cases when there is emergency, our mind drifts to the unknown and the what ifs of the could be’s. I know in my heart of hearts that God is faithful and that He ordained and purposed mine and Matthew’s union, I believe that He has a divine call and purpose for us as a couple, a family and in ministry. Jon Colyer gave us a scripture that he believes the Lord spoke to him for us… John 14:1 Do not let your heart be troubled, trust in God, trust in me also. I have held on to through the day and into last nights hospital visit. Matthew and I spoke about it and we believe that God is giving us a clear sign that Matthew needs to slow down, rest and just abide. We are sure that God is speaking to our hearts that He is our provider and that we will want for nothing…every need will be supplied. I am not broken this morning in that I know with whom my hope lies…..I know that my husband is in good hands…..I know that all will be well. However, I am shattered. Emotionally, mentally and physically. I came to the understanding yesterday/last night how much more in love with my sweet husband I am today than I was the day I married him. During all of this those angels in disguise I wrote about in my last post well many many more have been revealed and those who were mentioned were right there as usual. Faye took Judah for me without hesitation, my Mom, although she is 5000 miles away was right there to offer support and prayer…and then there is Matthew’s family who have been checking on him, and last but most importantly not least is our church family. I have been a Christian for 20 years and I can honestly say that I have never felt such love and support. The Gateway family has rallied around us and offered us support from every aspect and we are more than grateful. It is in moments like these that I see why God created us to be part of communities. The old saying that goes “it take a village to raise a child” well it takes a community to live….we are human and God created us to coexist to work together and to depend on one another…we are not meant to walk through this life alone…independent of others! Today I am thankful for a wake up call from God, I am thankful for my children, my precious husband, my family and friends! I feel so blessed and I may feel shattered for the moment but I am by no means broken.
